Good Morning Sa Inyo!

7:34 AM | Labels: let us grow

Goood moorning sa inyooo!! Ever heard of this catchy line from a Nescafe coffee commercial? Well, "good morning" is often times used every time someone is woken/roused up from sleep. In a day, I think these two words get to be used at least three to five times in one's day. Every time someone hears these words, one's mood instantly brightens up. Amazing don't you think? Well wouldn't it be better if these words were to be used to wake someone up not just physically, but mentally?

I know a handful of people who could use a cup of mental awakening, a cup of coffee to have that gooood mooorninng feeling! These are those people who abide by what they believe in whether it may be right or wrong. These are those people who never listen to what others have to say as they only see themselves as the only ones who are right.

There's this someone I know who has (had) dreams in life. He was very ambitious about it and very much motivated. Being a friend, I could not help but be happy and supportive of him. But alas, all those dreams of his seemed to have gone down the drain when his parents, his family, his supposedly main source of support, told him that it was foolish of him to have such dreams. You're still too young. You will never go anywhere with that! You've been brainwashed! Wake up! and more hurtful words that lower down one's self esteem more than ever. They even went to the extent of telling him about someone else's failures and showered him with more negative vibes. To make the long story short, the fire within that friend of mine died down. It was sad to say the least. But hearing such stuff is never really new. I myself have already experienced such. Heartbreaking isn't it? To know that the people you love with all your might would also turn out to be the people who would pour water on your heart's desires.

Friends, especially to the parents, we do appreciate your concern for us. We know that what you are doing is what's best for us. But would it hurt for you to let us try out and venture on things that we've always wanted to try out on our own? Perhaps it is your very pride that is making you go against our wishes to do things we’ve always wanted to do? Because the thought of your sons/daughters not doing what you’ve always wanted them to do strikes your ego thus you try to compensate by telling them that it’s only because you care that you do such stuffs? Wake up. What you’re doing to your children is actually unhealthy. Instead of letting them grow as individuals, you’re hindering their growth for success. Instead of letting them venture into their success zone, you’re letting them stay in their comfort zone, your comfort zone. You’re thinking, I want my son/daughter to be a doctor. It will bring pride to our family. Then here comes your son/daughter with a different path in her mind. She decides to be a painter instead! (because that’s where she’s really good at, painting). You go nuts! Anong painting painting pinagsasabi mo diyan! Wala kang mapapala diyan! Mapagkikitaan mo ba yan? Maibubuhay ka ba niyan?! And with just like that, your child's dreams become just that, just mere dreams. So instead of seeking his own path for success, he seeks out your path. The path you've laid out for him.

According to a really good motivational speaker, we as parents were just brought about by God here on earth to be shepherds of HIS creation. As a sheperd, it's our duty to guide our children's way. But it's never our duty to hold their lives as if it were our own. Who are we to control our children's lives? It'd be really better if you give your children a chance to seek his/her own path. If they fail, then let them be for them to learn about life. Help them stand up again. If they succeed, then be happy for them. Because not only did they prosper, they also went out of their comfort zone to reach their success zone in life. Para lang kasi yang batang tinuturuang maglakad. Pinapaubaya mo sa sarili niya na matutong maglakad. Pag nadapa, tutulungan mong tumayo ulit. Hindi ko naman sinasabing papabayaan mo na talaga siya. Ang sa akin lang, wag nyo sanang lagyan ng pader yung daan na lalakarin niya. So to all of us out there, good moorning sa inyoo!! :)